It's imperative for a child's
healthy development to feel important and worthy. Healthy self-esteem is a
child's armor against the challenges of the world. Kids who feel good about themselves
seem to have an easier time handling conflicts and resisting negative
pressures.
They tend to smile more readily and
enjoy life. These kids are realistic and generally optimistic.
It's also been
shown that children who feel important are well-rounded, respectful, and excel
in academics, extracurricular activities and hobbies and develop healthy
relationships with their peers.
In contrast, for children who do not
feel important or cherished have low self-esteem, and challenges can become
sources of major anxiety and frustration. Children who think poorly of themselves
have a hard time finding solving problems, and may become passive, withdrawn,
or depressed.
You are the biggest influence in
your child feeling important, valued and worthy. Remember to praise your child
for a job well done, and also for putting for a valiant effort. Praise the good
traits they naturally possess, and help them find ways to learn from their mistakes
and failures.
Be honest and sincere in your
praise. Help them realize that you also suffer from self doubt and can make
mistakes from time to time, but that you know that you are important, valued
and loved. When you nurture your own self -esteem and importance, your child
will learn to do the same, so be sure to lead by example and steer clear of
self-depreciating yourself or engaging in activities that lower your self-worth
or importance.
Your child may have inaccurate or
irrational beliefs about themselves, their abilities or their traits.
Accentuate the positive about your child, and encourage your child to set
realistic expectations and standards for themselves. Help them identify traits
or skills they'd like to improve and help them come up with a game plan for
accomplishing that goal. Encourage your child to become involved in cooperative
activities that foster a sense of teamwork and accomplishment.
Through these and other positive,
affirming activities, your child is sure to develop a strong sense of self
importance, value and worth which will carry into their adult years.

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