Needs of children are not only built by adequate food, education, logic and ability to work alone. One thing that is important also inculcated since early childhood is the emotional intelligence (EI).
Emotional Intelligence (EI) can be defined as a person's ability to understand and control emotions. This concept was then developed rapidly because it is considered as an important component in forming intelligent behavior.
In children under five, their emotional development is largely determined by what they see and hear everyday. The more often they are exposed to good things, then the emotional development they will also be good, and vice versa.
Emotional Intelligence (EI) can be defined as a person's ability to understand and control emotions. This concept was then developed rapidly because it is considered as an important component in forming intelligent behavior.
In children under five, their emotional development is largely determined by what they see and hear everyday. The more often they are exposed to good things, then the emotional development they will also be good, and vice versa.
Exposure source of Emotional IntelligenceThe most important source of exposure to the emotional development of children is what they see from their parents and families. Children do not just absorb what had advised the parents, but they are far more pervasive their attitudes and actions of their parents witnessed. If there is a discrepancy between words (advice) and actions (example), then it is actually absorbed by the child is an example of parental behavior.
So effective is a thing not advise children to always be grateful, while the parents are always complaining about various things. Likewise, teach children not to be shy, while parents are not sociable and prefer solitude.
In addition, other sources are increasingly influential on children is television. Especially in families that always turn on the TV and let the kids exposed to anything that tertayang on TV. Because children can not distinguish between the real and imaginary, they will tend to absorb all the shows on TV as "truth"; including display ads and soap operas / cartoon they saw.
"Truth" that kids watch it then be imitated by children and they assume that that behavior should be. Negative emotions that many tertayang on TV will also be absorbed by children and can make them experience emotional instability. Children imitate the style of a cartoon character's anger, sentimentality soap opera characters, or custom "snack" of different foods and soft drinks as tertayang.
Improving Emotional instabilityEmotional instability in children usually characterized by symptoms of consumption (could not resist the urge to have a particular item) and unbridled emotion surges (impatient, likes to get angry, bossy, happy or sad redundant redundant without any reason, etc. ): x
When it occurs in children, then it's time you go in and fix it. Some things parents can do to improve the emotional instability and to build positive emotions in children are:
a. Being a good role modelParents' example and a good environment is the foundation for the development of strong emotions. Parents are not perfect human being. But every parent should strive to become a better person from time to time. When parents try to improve themselves and correct his mistakes, children will also appreciate and absorb the process.
If we want to be angry, we can hold their breath and step back, indirect vent anger. When we make mistakes, we apologize to the child.
b. Limiting exposure to negativeTo ripen a good influence, exposure to any negative emotions should be limited. Children need to be kept from the association that is not healthy (orang2 who like to swear, saying rude, complaining, negative thinking, etc.). So too, exposes the emotions through the TV to be controlled. : Evil:
c. Learning to Identify and Express EmotionsBuilding the emotional intelligence is to introduce a wide range of emotions to the children and learn to manage it well. You can introduce various types of emotions to the child through daily activities. For example when children are laughing, you can say, "Whoa .. sister was happy huh? What makes you happy? "
Or if he was sad to say, "Honey, why is your face frown? You're sad huh? What makes you sad? Is it because the mother forbid you play out the house this afternoon? "
d. Two-Way CommunicationThe important thing in the stimulus to build emotional intelligence is a two-way communication, not just one direction. Parents learn to ask and not just a rule, parents learn to listen and dialogue with children.
Dig children's emotions through conversation, listen to their complaint or concern about something. Which may delay your comment can make it stop storytelling. Hold your emotions when it turns out the story to make you angry or disappointed. The important thing here is to explore the ability of child to express his emotions. The more often because the children are able to recognize emotions, the more he can learn to judge himself, the more he will be able to control it.
e. Reading and GamesAnother stimulus that can be given to building emotional intelligence in children is through reading books and games.
Activities undertaken may include listening to stories, reading books together or read alone children's books that engage the emotions of the players. One of the great reading to develop children's emotions are written by Paulette Bourgeois Franklin's series with the character of a turtle named Franklin.
So effective is a thing not advise children to always be grateful, while the parents are always complaining about various things. Likewise, teach children not to be shy, while parents are not sociable and prefer solitude.
In addition, other sources are increasingly influential on children is television. Especially in families that always turn on the TV and let the kids exposed to anything that tertayang on TV. Because children can not distinguish between the real and imaginary, they will tend to absorb all the shows on TV as "truth"; including display ads and soap operas / cartoon they saw.
"Truth" that kids watch it then be imitated by children and they assume that that behavior should be. Negative emotions that many tertayang on TV will also be absorbed by children and can make them experience emotional instability. Children imitate the style of a cartoon character's anger, sentimentality soap opera characters, or custom "snack" of different foods and soft drinks as tertayang.
Improving Emotional instabilityEmotional instability in children usually characterized by symptoms of consumption (could not resist the urge to have a particular item) and unbridled emotion surges (impatient, likes to get angry, bossy, happy or sad redundant redundant without any reason, etc. ): x
When it occurs in children, then it's time you go in and fix it. Some things parents can do to improve the emotional instability and to build positive emotions in children are:
a. Being a good role modelParents' example and a good environment is the foundation for the development of strong emotions. Parents are not perfect human being. But every parent should strive to become a better person from time to time. When parents try to improve themselves and correct his mistakes, children will also appreciate and absorb the process.
If we want to be angry, we can hold their breath and step back, indirect vent anger. When we make mistakes, we apologize to the child.
b. Limiting exposure to negativeTo ripen a good influence, exposure to any negative emotions should be limited. Children need to be kept from the association that is not healthy (orang2 who like to swear, saying rude, complaining, negative thinking, etc.). So too, exposes the emotions through the TV to be controlled. : Evil:
c. Learning to Identify and Express EmotionsBuilding the emotional intelligence is to introduce a wide range of emotions to the children and learn to manage it well. You can introduce various types of emotions to the child through daily activities. For example when children are laughing, you can say, "Whoa .. sister was happy huh? What makes you happy? "
Or if he was sad to say, "Honey, why is your face frown? You're sad huh? What makes you sad? Is it because the mother forbid you play out the house this afternoon? "
d. Two-Way CommunicationThe important thing in the stimulus to build emotional intelligence is a two-way communication, not just one direction. Parents learn to ask and not just a rule, parents learn to listen and dialogue with children.
Dig children's emotions through conversation, listen to their complaint or concern about something. Which may delay your comment can make it stop storytelling. Hold your emotions when it turns out the story to make you angry or disappointed. The important thing here is to explore the ability of child to express his emotions. The more often because the children are able to recognize emotions, the more he can learn to judge himself, the more he will be able to control it.
e. Reading and GamesAnother stimulus that can be given to building emotional intelligence in children is through reading books and games.
Activities undertaken may include listening to stories, reading books together or read alone children's books that engage the emotions of the players. One of the great reading to develop children's emotions are written by Paulette Bourgeois Franklin's series with the character of a turtle named Franklin.
In addition, many games can be played, including using the media flashcard feelings (flashcard can be found on the website Landscape Science). Through images on the flashcards, the child can be taught how to face people who are happy, sad, angry, confused, shocked, etc.. This method is very easy, because sometimes not all the emotions experienced by children.
Flashcard cards also can be a friend the story, for example telling the Bald figures are angry because the bread is gone, but then be happy because the bread was not missing but her mother cooked a toast. And then ask the child to take a 3-4 cards at random and began to tell his version. This activity is great fun and has many aspects of intelligence. Not only honed their emotional intelligence, but also linguistic and verbal ability increased.
As he recalled, parents can also provide a moral assessment of the story. For example get angry for no reason is an act that is not good and can make people confused. Explain a cause and effect of the onset of emotion to the children through games and stories will go into the unconscious child and make an intelligent human being empathetic to his surroundings. (*)
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