Children and Help to Overcome Stress

Children can also experience stress and if not addressed properly can cause disease physically, emotionally and mentally. So, how do you as parents can know the symptoms of stress in children? What causes it? What can be done to help children out of child's stress?

While on many minds, an adult sometimes we want to go back to childhood because it thought at the time a child can play freely without the need to think about family, finances, or anything else. However, a child who was innocent was also able to experience frustration and stress. Even some diseases in children can be caused by psychosomatic reaction due to stress.

Causes of Stress Children
Stress in children can occur at any age, even from an early age, since in the womb. When the mother-containing stress, the fetus in the womb will also feel it. Fetal heartbeat becomes irregular, so the supply of oxygen and nutrients is reduced. As you age, especially during adolescence, a variety of causes can trigger stress in children, among which are:

    Food
    Lack of nutrients in foods can cause the child's growth is not optimal and the supply of nutrients the body needs is not fulfilled so as to menimbulan stress. Likewise, consumption of fast food is excessive, because these foods contain excessive sugars and minimal nutrition to the body.

    Lack of sleep
    Playing or watching too much television makes children lack bedtime. For children who were enrolled, the number of tasks from school, extracurricular activities or courses that make children excessively short on time and had to spend the time to complete its task so hours of sleep is reduced. Lack of sleep can cause a child's mind and emotions become unstable and susceptible to stress.

    Family environment
    Arguments parent or divorce can cause fear in children. This is reasonable, because a child desperate for love of people around him, especially his parents for making her feel safe and protected.

    Parenting the parents
    In general, patterns of parenting consists of three kinds. First, authoritarian in which parents are authoritarian, do not give children the freedom and force the child to meet the demands of parents and even persecute their children. Second, the permissive parent is very freeing her child even though a child can not make the right decision and let your child's mistakes. Third, that authoritative parents clearly define the consequences of any action taken, they do not curb excessive child also did not release him, but continued to give attention to children and trying to establish an independent child. This authoritative pattern is best for your child's personality Formatting. Stress can occur in children if she feels unable to meet the demands of their parents or because he had suffered adverse consequences due to improper decision.

    Pressure from friends
    In her social, a child does not want to be different from other children of the group. The difference of a child, perhaps because of physical or nature can provoke ridicule from his friends. It also can cause a child to feel stressed because they feel can not be accepted by his friends.

Symptoms of Stress

 A child who is stressed can be identified by observing his behavior. Psychosomatic reactions, including gastrointestinal problems, headaches, fatigue, sleep disturbances, and problems during the waste water, perhaps a sign that something was wrong. Other signs such as frequent crying, happy to be alone, fussy, do not want to go to school or somewhere, making mischief in the school or the neighborhood playground, school impairment. Even stress can also lead to physical illness in children, such as feeling dizzy, nausea, diarrhea, paralysis due to depression, or other diseases.
If a child has pain in a long time and after consultation the doctor can not find the exact cause, it would not hurt if you ask the help of a psychologist, because the disease may not be caused by viruses, bacteria or damage caused to the body but the mind of children who are stressed .

 Helping Children Experiencing Stress
As a human being inexperienced and brain capacity is not optimal, a child does not have the ability to find solutions of the stress he suffered so need to get help from an adult to be able to overcome the difficulties that they experienced stress is not prolonged.
If there is an indication of your child experiencing stress, avoid excessive to feel panic because if you panic then you can also suffer from stress and so can not help your child. What you can do to help your child is:

    Improve your parenting
    If you've tended to authoritarian or vice versa permissiveness, should you change your parenting style so that your child does not feel burdened by excessive demands. In contrast, provide clear rules, why the rule is given and the consequences when rules are violated. Do not forget to give praise when your child to be positive, but given a reprimand or discipline a child if the offense as well as an explanation of why the discipline is given and not because the parents hate their children.

    Do not make excessive demands
    Parents want their children to achieve their best, but do not set targets that can not be achieved by the child. Do not also criticize or compare a child with someone else. Accept a child with all the advantages and drawbacks. If a child fails to achieve the demands that you give, do not punish or tease, but help children to become better in the future. Failure experienced by the child now does not mean he can not get better and it does not mean the end of everything.

    Create a closeness with the child and open communication
    Closeness of parents with children will help a child open to parents and parents freely make as a place to vent. Children can tell the unpleasant events they experienced while in school or outside the home. Parents, as a man with more experience can provide a good solution for a child or take the necessary measures so that no unpleasant incident can be avoided. This is very good compared to if the child tells permasalahannnya to peers or others who are not exactly who can provide advice that make it worse off.

    Create a harmonious family
    Mother's father a harmonious relationship, the closeness with brothers and other family members make the child feel comfortable and at ease at home, helping to avoid adverse interactions that can cause various problems that can make a child's stress. In addition, with harmonious family can avoid fights even divorce that will destabilize the children's emotions.

    Form an independent child
    A child in time should become independent, because it is not possible parents constantly watched. So, help a child with a train to make the necessary decisions. For example, when a child asks whether an action may be taken or not, take the child to discuss what good things and negative things will happen if the children do so. This can help a child if one day he must make decisions without the help of parents. Independent child will also be more dpaat solve the problem and handle when he felt uncomfortable that prevent a child experiencing stress.

    Give reasonable flexibility for children
    For things that are not very principle, provide flexibility in children. For example in determining the extracurricular activities or courses that will follow. Allow children to channel his hobby, so children do not feel constrained and enjoy the activities.

    Provide healthy food and adequate sleep
    Because stress can affect the nutritional intake of children, then serve nutritious food to you, do not get used to fast food, soft drinks, or snacks that are not nutritious. Also familiarize the child to eat regularly and on time. Meanwhile, to help children get enough sleep, help your child to have a good schedule, decide when he should play, when to do other tasks and schedules so the children have time to nap and not have to sleep until late at night to do their job.
Attention and affection from parents tertutama they need and help children avoid stress. So, continue to support, train and foster your child so that he can enjoy his days cheerfully. (*)